I am the uncle of two great little girls. They are a big part of my life. I see my sister and her daughters often. My brother in-law is out of town a lot. Recently I was at the mall with my sister and her two daughters. One of my nieces was misbehaving. My sister was not disciplining her and so as the male role model I stepped in and disciplined her daughter. My sister became very angry with me. What rights do I have as an uncle?
-Loving Uncle Looking For Some Rights
Fabian Says:
YOU HAVE NONE!!!!! With that said your sister should be thankful that you are in her and the girls life. Depending on availability of their father (your sister’s husband) the girls are missing lots of lessons a young person should learn growing up. I do not believe your sister was upset that you disciplined her girls; I think there is something behind her anger that she is not talking about. Your sister might be upset at the way you interrupted when she was disciplining her child or she might be upset that her husband was not there and she is dealing with the kids alone, she might even be having a bad day. Any other person would be happy that there is another person in their children’s life that will ensure they are doing the right thing no matter who is watching. Try and set up some boundaries with your sister and try to find out what else is going on with her. You need to approach her soon on the matter, not in an angry way but in a loving caring way.
Karla Says:
This can be a touchy subject but one well worth dealing with. As a mom I know that I can get very defensive when others try to discipline my children. I also know that when I am in a good place I do believe it takes a village to raise a child. I believe your sister is lucky to have you in her life especially since her husband is gone. I highly encourage you to approach your sister when you are both in a good mood. I would encourage you to express your love for her and your nieces. Acknowledge how hard it is to be acting as a single parent and express your interest in helping her. Ask her how she thinks you can best serve as a positive role model for her girls. Once you hear her I encourage you to share with her how you think you can help her with discipline. She will be more willing to listen once you have acknowledged her struggles and heard how she feels you can help. In the end you will have to respect her wishes because they are her children. I wish you the best and I hope your sister realizes how lucky she is to have your presence in her girls lives.
Karla Says:
This can be a touchy subject but one well worth dealing with. As a mom I know that I can get very defensive when others try to discipline my children. I also know that when I am in a good place I do believe it takes a village to raise a child. I believe your sister is lucky to have you in her life especially since her husband is gone. I highly encourage you to approach your sister when you are both in a good mood. I would encourage you to express your love for her and your nieces. Acknowledge how hard it is to be acting as a single parent and express your interest in helping her. Ask her how she thinks you can best serve as a positive role model for her girls. Once you hear her I encourage you to share with her how you think you can help her with discipline. She will be more willing to listen once you have acknowledged her struggles and heard how she feels you can help. In the end you will have to respect her wishes because they are her children. I wish you the best and I hope your sister realizes how lucky she is to have your presence in her girls lives.
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